We Are Going to Be Parents!

Never in my wildest dreams did we think we would be able to write this blog so soon. We imagined being on the wait-list for a year and spending 2012 writing posts about adoption statistics, openness, and other things that floated in and out of our minds while we were waiting for our child.

But life had other plans for us and decided that we were ready to be parents, and after the hardest and longest two and half years of our lives, the universe brought in our baby son on January 1, 2012.

The Unsupportive Family Member

This Holiday season, DH and I planned to tell his sister that we are home study approved. Here is the rub: this is the first time that she will learn that we have been trying to have a family and have chosen adoption. We were very consciousness of this and know that we needed to treat this delicately and be sensitive to the bomb we were about to drop on her. Now that we are home study approved, we are making it a priority to get our adoption circle in place and start to educate them on adoption.

I am so sad to say that we never got to tell my SIL that we were adopting. We were blown off all day long. We were told two times that she was too busy and would try to talk to us later. I begged with her that this was “really important.” And DH was told that his feelings of being dismissed were “pathetic.” When it got to be 10 at night, and she and her four children were still packing their bags to leave in the morning, it was clear that she was going to make this on her terms and about her. So we said goodnight to them and went to bed. Trust us, we did take steps to get on her schedule before the big day.

Denise Richards Adopted!

So, apparently I'm a little behind on my celebrity news, but I just found out Denise Richards adopted a baby girl through domestic adoption. When T-man and I made the decision to move to parenting through adoption, one of the first things we started thinking about was what does adoption look like and how common is it. Now that we have really entered this world, it seems like a curtain was lifted and we see adoption all around us. Which is a great feeling to see yourself and your story in others, and know that you are not alone and adoption is more common than you think. It seems the more we look, the more we find adoption stories in our lives and our friends lives. While they don't know about me yet, turns out two of the people I work with in a very small office have adopted children. Anyway, I just thought it was really cool.