As we both experienced the loss of infertility, we reacted in these same ways. I wanted to talk to counselors. I wanted to tell family. I was anxious to find a support group for male sterility. My wife had to pull me back, and I'm glad she did. Part of the need for privacy was to protect our own emotional health. Another part was that, if we had a child using donor sperm, we would need to be very careful about how we told his or her story to others.
Now that we've entered the world of adoption, we're beginning to open up a bit more. This blog is an obvious example of that, but there are others. I've told a few friends that we're adopting and she has followed suit by telling some of her friends and even a work colleague. And we both feel pretty good about it. In fact, it's empowering. I feel so much better to shrug off the depression and shame I felt as recently as two months ago. I know those feelings of loss will come back, but I excited about the chance to finally get some things off my chest.
So, what would you like to know?